Thursday 8th May was a terrible day. All I can say is that before this I had a dark cloud following me and I thought I was able to control it. It took breaking up with my first long-term relationship to cause me to crash.
Previously I had suffered bouts of anxiety, but always managed to cope somehow. And December 2013 I worked in the care industry and due to the pressures of that job, I developed work related stress, the thought of going back to this care home had saddened me a lot, this should have been a big warning sign, but again after I left this job I thought I was okay.
At that point in my life I hid quite a lot of negative feelings, that I was having from everyone. Every now and then my boyfriend would notice that I wasn’t telling him my true feelings, even about mediocre things that we’d plan to do ect.
Even though I was having negative thoughts, I was still able to get back into a “happy place”. I had my old job back, working in a sixth form college and enjoying working as part of a supportive team, went out like any normal girl like myself would with friends and had a good time.
Me and my boyfriend had a break for about a week, I had a lot of anxiety and negative thoughts then, but I kept myself busy and we decided to try again. Whilst trying again, I always had a feeling something bad was going to happen, ranging from my boyfriend’s epilepsy getting worse, something happening in the family, to something going on at work. The anxiety was building up, the dark cloud was getting darker and larger, I was always on edge. I hid this with a smile or do say something convincing to cover my tracks.
So we arrive at that day when I finally crashed. My boyfriend broke up with me, I didn’t know what to say or do. I wanted to run, shout, scream but most of all I wanted to feel physical pain. We were outside in the rain when this happened. I was in a state the first time police officers saw me. They wanted to make sure I was okay, I eventually calmed but lied to them by saying ‘yes we’ll go to a dry place to talk’. Really I was thinking “I’m not going to talk, I’m going to runaway” so my boyfriend had followed me as he promised the police officers that I would get home safely, darker thoughts had come to light.
Even though the logical thinker was still there, the negative feelings along with my memories of evidence supporting these feelings came to light and knocked out all the logical thinking I had. The negative me felt unloved by my family, that my friends didn’t really care, that I was always going to be alone and the one that stuck out most is ‘I have nothing left to live for’. I know this is ridiculous as there’s a lot of strong memories that proves this wrong.
So this was my lowest, lowest of all lows I have ever experienced. I wanted to kill myself, I didn’t want to see myself bleed consciously, I tried to jump of a bridge, but every time I tried he stopped me, I couldn’t jump as I would have taken him with me, which I didn’t want. So the next thing I tried was to strangle myself with my handbag’s strap, again as soon as he realised what I was doing he stopped me. I knew he wasn’t going to give in, so I sat. I sat in the rain, with my back against the bridge’s cemented wall, in silence, a passer-by came suggesting to him to call a friend to pick me up.
So he called my best friend as I asked for help, she wanted to speak with me, she did, I can’t remember what I said but I know I wasn’t in the right frame of mind. I was a broken person. Once the call was finished, he called the police for help.
5 minutes passed I knew I needed help. Help had got to me. One of the police officers helped me up and took me to the car to talk and to get warmed up, as at that point I was cold and absolutely soaked in rain. He reassured me and told me what was going to happen. As I asked for help they took me to hospital so that I had a voluntary mental assessment. They called my parents and they along with my best friend and her mum came to the hospital.
First I was seen by the paramedic who did a brief assessment, then she referred me to a mental health nurse. About 90 minutes after seeing the paramedic I saw a very polite and lovely nurse, I told her everything that happened, along with my medical history. She kindly gave me a leaflet and wrote some key information to inform my doctor; which was medication and the type of counselling that I would need to be referred to and she reassured me that if I have any problems to pop back to see her team.
As I came out I found that my sister and her little family arrived with warm dry clothes for me. (Really grateful for this) I didn’t expect to see my nephew there too. I couldn’t not smile at him. He’s my important reason to live.
I arrived home only told a few people what had happened. I had a Mc Donalds, couldn’t even eat the fries, was absolutely tired, yet restless and shaky. Eventually I went to bed… This is where my story begins…